Have you ever felt not woman enough as a petite, but rather a ‘forever girl’? I don’t mean only physically.
Relax, most petite women feel this way, and I was one of them – I must admit, I didn’t know how to woman. Being petite leads, in most of the cases, to looking much younger but remaining a girl for the rest of your life is not an option.
As a petite, my parents always treated me like a child; this is what all parents do in general, I guess. As a result, I didn’t know when the transition from mommy’s girl to a grownup woman has been done.
At a certain moment, I have realized that my parent’s behavior started to annoy me and the first thing I’ve tried was to change them. I was angry and I’ve started to argue with them over this subject only to hurt my parents’ feelings and become more frustrated. Little by little I’ve realized it wasn’t their problem, it was mine. It was all about my perception and how I felt and acted.
When people treated me like a child, I used to become one.
To make things worse, my parents (and sometimes my sister) weren’t the only ones to perceive me as a girl; many of my friends did it, too but this is another story.
All of the above led to some serious self-confidence issues.
It is a real struggle to believe in yourself and feel like an adult when those around perceive you as a child. You can read more on this subject in my article about petite women struggles. But this is not about them. It is about YOU and the way you feel.
I know that it’s hard to feel good about yourself in today’s world where so many unrealistic standards are set. But it is not impossible at all. You just have to be yourself.
Being petite doesn’t make you less of a woman
After all, what being a woman really means? Is it all about appearance? Of course not! Appearance is just a steppingstone, there are other things that should make you feel like the woman you are. We can’t have it all (in our cases the height) but we are all different and this is what makes us unique.
You can be petite and still be feminine, height has nothing to do with this. It’s all about confidence, presence, and attitude. When you become aware of who you are, you won’t even care what those around think about you. It took me a long time to understand all this, to love my self
In the meantime, my parents haven’t changed their perspective, on the contrary. But I was the one who changed her point of view. I have embraced my inner child and know I know to make the difference between being a child in my parents’ eyes and acting like one.
Have you ever felt less of a woman because of your short height? Let’s talk in the comment section below.
This article reflects my own beliefs and experiences.